报复 Revenge

自古，男人的生理构造是播种，播得越广越好。可是，为何有些男人虽然有股冲动，却永不愿跨出那线，是怕老婆、怕麻烦、还是选择不愿给予老婆那种伤害。有些每回在外玩完后， 还是会回家，是因为偷吃刺激，还是还爱着老婆，但生理上满足不了，还是离婚很麻烦。种种原因，无从说起。

有些人，当感情破裂时，选择离婚。离婚后，心情低落，行尸走肉。选择复合，可能是心里还爱着，可能是为了孩子，而接受了复合。却可能复合后才发现，每每看到对方，就回想起曾被背叛过，而下意识地报复。可能是因为要给孩子一个完整的家，选择名义上的夫妻，认为这没问题。孩子不笨。大人的关系好不好，小孩都可察觉到。表面上是个完整的家，底里却比离婚更丑陋。就连心情低落，选择出外发泄，也不向枕边人倾诉，这样的家庭，挺不更可悲。我们身为大人们，往往没想到，孩子们的处世方式，都是跟他们身边的成人们学习。若是我， 我会选择离开。我可能会遇到一个更好的，更疼我的，而孩子们身心会更健康。因为离开，并不代表不会再见到孩子。而可能因为新的家庭更美满，而孩子受惠更多。

每个人都有选择，有些男人在诱惑面前可以说不，因为太爱身边的人，而不忍接受让身边人承受痛苦。我爸偷吃过，为了孩子，放弃那个女人，再也不在外偷吃。既然几经选择了结婚，就要为了他\她幸福着想。婚姻，并不是签了结婚证书，就可以什么也不做，大家就会永远幸福快乐。婚姻\爱情是需要用心去保温、去保鲜，这样才能长久。既然选择，就不要轻易放弃。但如果裂缝太大，无法弥补，就给大家自由，寻找另一片天空。

Since ancient times, men are biologically wired to plant their seeds as widely as possible. Then, why is it that there are men in the world even though tempted, will never cross the line? Is it because they are afraid of their wife, because it's troublesome, or choose not to cause the kind of hurt on their wife? Some men will still return to their wife even though they may have one on the side. Is it the excitement of having one on the side, believing the wife will never find out? Or still love his wife, just that the sex has been unsatisfying? Or that divorce is a very troublesome matter? It's hard to determine the real cause. 

Some choose divorce when they know that the whole marriage has broken down. And then they went into depression. Some after divorce got back together, maybe because still love the other party deep down, maybe because of the kids. Then realized that, every time, they are just being reminded that thy have been betrayed before, & subconsciously has chosen revenge. They are still together, just so to provide the children a "functional family", think that the arrangement is fine. We adults often underestimate the child's ability to grasp & understand the reality of the world, not realizing that children learnt from their parents' behavior. The children know that something is wrong somewhere, & this will be uglier situation than if their parents has chosen divorce. The worst is that you chose to seek outside for a relief, than to look for the one beside you when you are feeling down. This is just pure sad. If this happen to me, I will choose to leave. I might meet someone better, crazy about me, & the children will grow up in a healthier environment. Choosing to leave, doesn't mean I am giving up my duty as a parents. Rather, because there are more love in the new family, the kids will benefits as well. 

Everyone has a choice. Some men chose to say no in front of temptation, because they love their woman too much, & couldn't bear to cause such hurt onto her. My dad has an affair before, & given the women up because of his love to us, his children. If you have chosen to a marriage, then you should care about the happiness of your partner. Marriage doesn't work by just signing the certificate & saying I do, then no more efforts needed to be put in, & it will be happily ever after. Marriage/love require efforts, in maintaining the relationship, in keeping a sense of excitement in it. Once chosen, do not say let go easily. But if it has been broken, then choose to free each other, in search for a better future.